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oh amy its horrible isnt it iv had the mil from hell before too,fake nasty just plain ughhh.
anyway in situations as in partys i just found i had to give in and also put a fake smile on give her a kiss on the cheek gritting my teeth,to put a show on basically for marlon n kids,i also loved the fact that my kids was all over cuddling shouting mammma and bear hugging her as she walked in the room ,while they paid no attention to his mum,gave me a big smirk my family too knew how she was and how nasty she had been to me,but the partys did seems to run smoothly.
but that was my choice to just give in,i dont think i would now,im alot stronger now ,i was a doormatt with him.
as for my new MIL well shes opposite from my ex,as the kids over night,plays with them buys them clothes when she knows their coming she stocks up on ice creams sweeties things to play with,only problem i have is with this new baby,OMG the prams not good enough,we'v decorated the whole living room now we saving every penny for a new bathroom ,well why shes says your only renting(but its ours if we want to buy,we can but we thought while where renting to do it up first)plus we might need to move to a 4 bedroomed if where too crammed.
oh but the worse thing is,as you know iv a low lying placenta and in 6 weeks iv got another scan to see if its moved,well she adamant shes going instead of dom,sayig he cant risk avin a day off,coz SHE wants to know the sex,errr no chance in hell,dom just giggles,but all his other family av said nooo you cant do that,but as it gets closer im telling dom its NO shes not finding out.this scan is gonna be nerve wracking i just want the news my placenta as moved i dont care about the sex.

sorry amy i feel iv not helped you at all and just told you my problems,but you know soon as you say the word MIL im on one ..love you xx

Ok, I guess the "right" thing to do would to let her come and just smile and play dumb. But the evil me would say no way. Even though Macy doesn't care for all that much, you would be doing it for her and only her. Something that may not seem a big deal now, but in the future will.
You can put stipulations though. Like she can only come for the last half hour or something like that. And if she pulls anything, she has to leave immediately.
As for coming to the hospital, not sure how yours works, but with Claire in order to see her you had to come to my room. They didn't have a nursery. But You don't have to allow her in your room. You can even let the desk know she's not allowed. If she wants to come and look in at the nursery, then let her, but make sure it's clear she can't come to your room.

yea warn them before hand that no one comes in without you knowing who wants to first,whe i had archie everyone was ringing and i tolf the midwifes to tell them nothing xx

OMGoodness...you poor thing. I don't know what I'd do in your situation. That's so tough. I don't really have any good advice, but rant away! I hope everything smooths out for you hunny!!

I know how you're feeling because I feel the exact same about my MIL.
Whenever my MIL comes to town (twice since brylie was born ), I have just sucked it up and seen her. My MIL thrives on drama, and when I don't offer her any, it kills her. I am as nice as I can be to her, giving her hugs and laughing with her, and I know it eats her up. The old "kill her with kindness" is so true. So I would just say, to make DH happy, have her over for the party...be nice to her and act like everything is fine. Your family knows the truth about her anyway, so you will just come out looking like the bigger person if you have her over. I know you're going to feel sick about it before she gets there, but it's just for a few hours and then you don't have to see her for a long time after that.

Side note - I just learned my MIL was here last weekend (she lives in TN, but her parents live here), and she didn't bother to come visit hunter and bry. I'm glad I didn't have to see her, but it makes me kind of mad that she didn't care to see them. (Her only grandchildren by the way) Her sister told me she had been here. Oh, she doesn't have a relationship with her sister either, their mom told her sister and her sister told me

I don't really like my MIL or FIL either but they have always been invited to parties. When I was pregnant with Makenna I actually left Abby's Birthday party because I was so annoyed with MIL and the friend she brought with her.

really?? so what does the sil say his name is?
your DH sounds like dom,he cant say NO and it makes me mad

I would write to SIL on facebook, for all to see and let her know that name has NOT been chosen. Not even close to it. Ask her who told her one had been chosen...stir up the pot a bit! LOL!

lol..I thought about doing that Jen but she made reference to it having her father's name in it and today would have been his birthday...so I thought that'd be too mean. She didn't say what the name was though

I'm so sorry amy I hate that you are having to deal with this, especially while being pregnant, you don't need any stress...DH has a lot of ass kissing to do!

well sounds like you are having a great week huh..lol... well i have no clue what to tell you my inlaws seem to stay to themselves and not really bother us at all.